WOMEN- TAKING CARE OF OTHERS & IGNORING YOU

The Society for Women’s Health Research found that women make most of the health care decisions for their families but when it’s their turn to go to the doctor, many don’t. Why?

Women, we wear different kinds of head-wear! Some says, “watch woman” another says “Cook” and another say’s dry cleaner, mediator, nurse, teacher, patient navigator, businesswoman, caregiver, psychotherapist and so on. Interestingly, the one head-wear that we rarely put on is the one that says “self-care.” That’s the one that gets shoved to the back of the closet and never worn. We tell our-self, we will wear the self-care head-wear when we finish with what is currently taking our attention but we know is a lie because we tell our-self that what is taking our attention is a major part of us that cannot do without our attention…lolz ! That is what some of us believe anyways…

Guess what ladies, that day will never get here unless we circle it in our calendar and we make it happen. We keep juggling all the family activities and demands and we rarely pay attention to our own needs, particularly the state of our health, our needs often go unnoticed and get neglected. A pain in the chest, a persistent headache, a lump in the breast or rash on our skin which will get quick attention if that distress occurred in our partner, parent, child or friend but when these medical issues resonate in the body of the woman of the house, a doctor visit is rarely on her to-do list. Majority of the women I counsel are more concerned with the well-being of their husband, children and their extended family than she is of her own health

I know that we multitask a lot but does it mean that we are getting all the activities on our to do list done properly? Anyways, I know that I may not be able to tell us a story that will convince us to lighten our schedule, hmm…. but, how about trying to eat foods that multitask? How do foods multitask? Am guessing that is the next question on your mind…lolz ! I just think is smart to seek and enjoy foods that do double duty. If you ask me, here’s how I think you can take better care of yourself as a woman – Resolve in your heart to do it and just do it……lolz

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Dear Public & Private Sector

Today , i thought to do you a short letter about relationships as it concerns your working together to achieve great change ! You both must know that relationships are what really matter in life,our relationship to God, our relationship with our family , our friends and others. Most times, we allow this relationships to occupy much lower positions than they deserve on our priority list. If we are not careful , we can allow somebody/something or our personal interest to drive a wedge between ourselves and the people who mean the most to us. To maintain a healthy relationship,you both need to learn how to keep the strife out of your lives ! God made each one of us a unique individual ,you both have different temperament and personality ,you both approach issues in different ways so, you should not be surprised if you do not agree all the time . Too often though, if someone doesn’t agree with our opinion we get out of shape and allow strife to develop. The truth is, just because someone doesn’t agree with my opinion or like me or do things the way i do things doesn’t necessarily mean that they are wrong and i am right or the other way round ,we are just different and our differences can cause friction. There is no such thing as a perfect spouse or a perfect colleague or a perfect boss or a perfect pastor. We must realize that , love makes allowances for peoples weaknesses and give people the benefit of the doubt ! I challenge you both today, learn to overlook an offense and just move on . Love keep no record of wrong. In-other words, you have to overlook somethings…God has probably put you with somebody different than you are on purpose,your strength can make up for your partners weaknesses and his /her strength can make up for your weakness . you should complete each other rather than compete with each other, you compliment each other. The two of you are much more stronger together than you are apart !

Influencing YOUR COMMUNITY

Will I ever get there? Coming from this very poor background, how do I sponsor myself in school? How do I meet up with other girls from average homes, not to talk of the rich kids! Am I good enough to be a professional, when my mum is just a pepper seller in Egbeda Market and my dad, a bricklaying drunkard who feels frustrated with life? With so much negative noise around me, whom do I go to for mentoring? Who is even going to agree to mentor a girl like me? How am I supposed to pass my exams in an environment like this where everyone is either, a cleaner, a house help or some petty trader or the other? What is going to become of me? I know I can use the internet to do stuff like check my Facebook page, twitter and other social media platforms that encourage meeting other people; but, are those, all there will be to my life? What are the chances that someday, I won’t just marry a man and end up as an eternal chef and domestic worker?  What a depressing, boring life that will be ….

Hello girl, do you have these kind of thoughts jump at you? You do? Well, I bring you good news …Do you know that you can better manage your environment and engage with others within your community so as to achieve a better YOU?

You see, a community comprises of three elements: territoriality, collectivity and the greatest share of daily activities. The truth is, you can achieve a more desirable level of life satisfaction, as well as, more effective levels of adaptation, by allowing what you despise around your community and in your community motivate you to take action and profile solutions through positive actions and attitude. It may be tough to influence your community positively but, NEVER IMPOSSIBLE to achieve.

Yes, you can become the first professional in your family; you can become the first accountant, social worker, film star, lawyer or doctor in your community! You can create the change you want to see by becoming and living THE CHANGE you desire to see.

You are intelligent and creative, and can be rich if you choose to be. Your brain is not dormant and you are not stupid. You are that woman who selects wool and fax, and works with eager hands. Yes, you set about your work vigorously and your arms are strong for your task! You are worth far more than rubies, girl, and you have so much treasure in you waiting to manifest! Allow them manifest …Do not lock them down in you!

Dear girlfriend, I must also add at this juncture: though your mind be intelligent and your belief in yourself, sky high, it is all for nothing if you do not trust God. My personal relationship with Jesus Christ has taught me that I can do all things through Him who strengthens me! With Christ involved in your affairs, you will find grace in every race set before you.

Girls, go forth and influence your community for good!

Please, feel free to contact us if you need to speak to a professional counsellor

 

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SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT POLICY

Today,we go a step further in our discussion on ” Are There Welfare Policies in Nigeria? ” Nigeria is often referred to as the “Giant of Africa”, owing to its large population and economy. With approximately 174 million inhabitants, Nigeria is the most populous country in Africa, and the seventh most black populous country in the world. Nigeria has one of the largest populations of youth in the world. The country is viewed as a multinational state, as it is inhabited by over 500 ethnic groups, of which the three largest are the Hausa, Igbo and Yoruba; these ethnic groups speak more than 500 different languages, and are identified with a wide variety of cultures regarding religion. Nigeria is divided roughly in half between Christians, who live mostly in the southern and central parts of the Country, and Muslims, concentrated mostly in the northern and south-western regions. A minority of the population practice religions indigenous to Nigeria, such as those native to Igbo and Yoruba peoples.

At present, there is no all-inclusive national social welfare policy that will ensure the welfare and development of persons with disabilities, orphans and vulnerable children, the elderly and other vulnerable Nigerians.

However, there are several policies which addresses specific welfare issues in Nigeria, some of which will be discussed on this platform in this series. I will begin with:

SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT POLICY (1989)

The country has a Social Development policy. The Nigerian National Advisory committee on Social Development (NASCD) in 1975 identified social development as the subject of social welfare, women programs, sport development and community development. However, this was later considered to be narrow in scope and subsequent governments have broadened the scope of social development in Nigeria. Today, there is a full-fledged ministry of social development, youth and sport which was first established in 1977. All the component 36 states replicated this at the state level.

Its major instrumental objectives is to organize and promote appropriate programs and services in each of social welfare, community development, women and development, youth and sports development. To realize this, the policy has seven (7) broad goals through which it can accomplish its objectives, they are:

The continuous improvement of the quality of life of the entire citizens both as individuals and as groups must be assured.

A constant promotion and improvement of the most vulnerable and disadvantaged groups notably, the disabled, the poor and destitute, the aged, children, youth, rural population and women through the initiation of programs aimed at improving their welfare must be assured.

The development and mobilization of human and social capacity, in particular the strengthening of the capacity of various institutions, communities and target groups to cope creatively and effectively with the challenges of change must be done.

The anticipation, control and maximization of social problems must be achieved.

The maintenance of high moral standard of the nation as well as being alert and responsive against policies and trends both foreign or local that mitigate against such standard must be assured.

Maximization of the social development sector contribution towards the attainment of the country’s economic social integration, social defense and human development objectives must be achieved and

Promotion of policy orientations and programs of interventions likely to strengthen the observance and protection of human rights, advance social justice and human dignity and enhance the status of people in the scheme of national development must be done.

The question is ,is this policy implemented as it should be implemented ? Are the targeted audience the real beneficiaries of this support programs? I will be unfair if I do not speak about one sure way you can have 100% welfare coverage,I know JESUS CHRIST ! In him you have all things pertaining to Life and Godliness. He is simply sweet and reliable…

ARE THERE WELFARE POLICIES IN NIGERIA?

In answering the question “Are there Welfare Policies in Nigeria?” and if there are “are they implemented?” the first thing that comes to mind is “what is a welfare policy?” in understanding the term welfare policy, there is a need to break the concepts, first. What is welfare?

According to the oxford dictionary, welfare is the health, happiness, and fortunes of a person or group. It is also defined as the statutory procedure or social effort designed to promote the basic physical and material well-being of people in need.

It can also be defined as the provision of minimal level of wellbeing and social support for all citizens. Welfare can take a variety of forms, such as monetary payments, subsidies and vouchers, or housing assistance. Welfare systems differ from country to country, but welfare is commonly provided to individuals who are unemployed, those with illness or disability, the elderly, those with dependent children and veterans.

Policy, on the other hand, is a statement of intention, committed towards intervention in a social situation. Policy is a thought out decision or plan of action about the type of desired change to any given problem or situation.

A policy is a deliberate system of principles to guide decisions and achieve rational outcomes. A policy is a statement of intent, and is implemented as a procedure or protocol.

In other words, Welfare Policies are legislative documents that contain guidelines and directives for the provision of minimal level of well-being and social support for all citizens. It can also be referred to as guidelines, principles, legislation and activities that affect the living conditions conducive to human welfare.

Having clarified these concepts, it is imperative to go back to the question at hand. Are there welfare policies in Nigeria?

Poetry Therapy in Group Work: An MSW Student Perspective – SocialWorker.com

I was offered the opportunity to develop a group curriculum at my first year placement.The group, Pathway to Poetry, was meant to be a journey in which clients would find and develop their inner voice.

Source: Poetry Therapy in Group Work: An MSW Student Perspective – SocialWorker.com

MY JOURNEY AS COMPUTER SCIENCE GRADUATE TO FARMING.

Hello People, enjoy this interesting true life story ! Am sure you will be encouraged.

I am KUSIMO OLUSOLA JOHNSON, a graduate of computer science from Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago – Iwoye, Ogun state.

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After my youth service in March 2011, as was the usual custom, I set out every day in the city of Lagos, submitting my Curriculum Vitae and filling job applications online. I went around the streets of Lagos, writing different tests and attending various types of interviews in search of a job. With high hopes of getting a permanent job very soon, with different promises from family and friends, I added the vigor of praying and fasting for God to intervene in my unpalatable predicament.

At various times, it would look like I was close to getting a job, only for my hopes to be dashed again and again, with different stories. Finally, I received a text message to come for a brief test and interview at Victoria Island, Lagos, with a new generation bank. I remember waking very early after being barely able to sleep a wink through massive amounts of anxiety. I also arrived very early. At that point, I had surprisingly become very calm within myself, hoping for the best. On arrival, we were asked to register our names as we came in. Thankfully, it was a very calm and peaceful atmosphere. Sitting down that day, I remember praying to God to grant me favor in the tests and interview. Finally, I wrote the test, went through the interview, and passed.

Immediately, we were put through the orientation process on our job descriptions. We were given a target of 10 million per month, placed on a six-month probationary period, and a car provided to take us around for marketing. We were also informed that, failure to meet the set target after the probationary six months, would mean instant termination of job. Considering the uphill, and to be honest,nigh impossible task set before us, I realized it was best if I sacked myself before the evil day came upon me. It would be best to accept the inevitable, seeing how I had no working idea on how to raise 10 million Naira within 30 days, save for indulging in ignoble acts which had no guarantees of success, anyway.

With this running through my head, another thought struck me: what if I could raise 10million Naira for a bank every month, what then stopped me from raising that same amount to start a business for myself? With that on my mind as well, I immediately packed all of my credentials, and left the place.

On my way, I began praying and asking God different questions, asking, what exactly did He want me to do? It was indeed frustrating and deterring when I examined all the scenarios before me. However, in spite of my predicament, I found I was calm and joyous. When I arrived home that day, everyone was waiting to hear the good news of my employment. I was asked how the test and interview went, and I quickly replied that it was fine, with a smile too. I added that I was expecting to be called to resume work. Once away from the piercing questions, I went on with my life, putting together a Plan B to rescue myself from unemployment. I also remembered that while still an undergraduate, I usually said to myself, I would never want to work for anyone. It appeared like I had been preparing ahead, for what I was going through.

In that same year, I saw an advert in the Punch Newspaper, advertising the planting of cassava,as initiated by the Federal Government of Nigeria, through the Nigeria Cassava Growers Association (NCGA).

I quickly picked up the information and made several enquiries to ascertain the process of involvement. Eventually, I applied to become a member of the Nigeria Cassava Growers Association of Nigeria, an association full of old men above the age of fifty. At the time, I was the only young person among a gathering of old men. On the day of our first meeting, a guest came to speak to the association, and after the meeting, one of the members of the association called me behind and asked to know what I was doing in their midst? To him, I was too young to be in farming, with the advice that I should go look for a job in the banking industry. Suffice it to say, coming from a failed bank job trial, that statement had a demoralizing effect on my spirit, but my vision to change the mindset that people have about farming in Nigeria, remained so clear within me. That day, I went on my knees and asked God to give me a clearer vision for my life. I had this strong conviction in my spirit that I was on the right track.

Consequently, I began attending the meetings for more information on what I had to do,traveling from Lagos to Abeokuta using my meager savings, but kept on through the fire of my passion and perseverance. After some weeks, I got a call from one of the members of the association, that he wanted us to work together, and we fixed a meeting for the following week.We finally met up, and discussed our individual visions and passions for farming. After the meeting, we both agreed to work together. Afterwards, we both went to the Ogun/Osun River Basin, and leased about 50 hectares of land to kick-start the project. During this period, there was NO SALARY of whatever form, but I was enjoying my passion. At certain points something would question me if I was really on the right track or was just wasting my time? For every time I had these kind of feelings, I would go to God a question for solace and strength.

To confirm God answers to my questions, I received a cheque of fifty thousand Naira to support my vision from a person I never expected it from. Right then, I knew for certain that, that was what was called to do, and kept on moving with perseverance. After some years farming cassava root tubers, which could take months or even a year  , I started asking: what could I plant that could grow within a month? The answer to that question didn’t come until after a year. During that period, I was busy doing research, attending trainings, government seminars on agriculture and many more. Before long, I had exposed myself to various different information on farming in Ogun State.

Finally, a family friend came to me that she was interested in the farming business. Then, she was gainfully employed in one of the top banks in Nigeria. Some months later, she resigned from her banking job and took up farming as a full-time job. With the experiences and information at my disposal, I was able to share my knowledge and experience about farming in Ogun state. So, she bought some lands and we began the clearing after which we started planting cassava root tubers.

After, a year her husband resigned from his law firm and joined as a  farmer. At that point, I knew God was with me, and the time I had spent going around, doing research hadn’t been a waste.

In 2014, I was sent for more trainings, and everything I needed was also provided for me, but still, NO SALARY. I enjoyed what I was doing. At the end of 2014, I was sent on vacation outside the shores of Nigeria for the first time in my life.At that point, I eventually discovered what I had been praying for in 2014 – the plant which grew within 6 weeks, was the Cucumber. I took my time to learn about the trade, from growing to harvesting and selling. This happened through September 2015.

After then, I heard a call to establish my own farm. I was given 5 acres of land for free, with all the facilities I needed. By November 2015, I was ready to take charge, and I started training my friends for free, in cucumber farming. My vision was, and still is, to help and reduce employment, by encouraging people to follow their passions despite the difficulties and stumbling blocks on their way.

In March 2016, I was out of Nigeria again to consult for a friend, still through the platform of this farming job.

Indeed, I remain utterly grateful to God and those who supported me all the way. To those who criticized me, I am still grateful to you, because you gave me that push that allowed this vision of mine, come to fruition.

Hmm m!what an interesting story.Like i always say ” Never look down on your passion ! ” Anyways, would you love to get in touch with the young man?Please find below his details

Kusijohn2002op@yahoo.co.uk  

08027207283,08053824742

 

 

 

 

 

Fun Activities4The Elderly

 

 

Amor.

We have always been fascinated at the sight of the elderly. I have often wondered at the whiteness of their hair and the frailty of their skins. I stare in wonder at those gums begging for the company of healthy teeth; how they pull out, one after the other? Funny thought, to be honest.

There are also those grand wrinkles, especially those around the lining of the eyes. You look straight at them, and you see wisdom, years ofexperience,fragility, and often, those still holding on to past hurts and pains! (Un-forgiveness, which could have stemmed from Passive Aggression Behavior)

Have you ever caught sight of say, a 98years old climbing the stairs, how they bend and take their time, just as in other tasks that they must do, taking one step at a time? This, in itself, is a lesson! Getting to see them go about their daily activities is a lot of fun and a crash course in how to live life, because, you learn a lot by being around them. Ever watched these elderlies bend to pick a book from the floor, especially if the book is a ROMANCE story? You see the spark on their faces! It probably reminds them of their younger days, especially for those who got married and had kids, or may not have had kids, but have had very interesting love lives in their younger days. Exciting flashbacks, they get to experience.

Their white hair is interesting to observe! But really, watching their hair gradually move from black to white gradually and becoming white just tells me about experience, wisdom, going further to explain the wisdom and greatness of the almighty GOD. This will humble you folks, knowing that someday you will be having a lot of white hair, except of course, you intend to hide them cosmetically with hair dye!

Yes, the elderly are simply interesting and so much fun to be with. When around them, I love to have my pen and jotter around me, because, there will always be a lesson that will need penning down. For those with health issues like Dementia, Amnesia, Personality Disorder, Aphasia, Agnosia, Apraxia, Apathy, Ataxia etc., there becomes a need for specially trained assistance and support.  It is in this regard that AMORVARD helps to engage the elderly with interesting and fulfilling activities. You may check us out on http://www.amorvard.com .

Indeed, the elderly are interesting if one can be patient enough to spend some time with them and listen to them! This clarion call is for every one, including the government. There should be adequate provision, and a well-structured welfare program that caters for the elderly!FATE Project

Well, do I need any special equipment?

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Setting up an exercise for the elderly and seniors program at home doesn’t require a lot of investment in equipment.

Unless you really have your heart set on that new all-purpose gym !

All you really need is a sturdy armless dining room or kitchen chair and a few weights.

Make sure you have athletic type shoes that offer good support such as walking or running shoes.

Your clothing should also be comfortable and loose fitting. Find a sturdy kitchen chair to hold on to for balance.

You can use a water bottle or can of fruit juice to lift if you don’t have weights.

If you can afford to purchase small hand weights, try picking up a 2 pound, 3 pound, 5 pound and 8 pound weight.

These will likely serve the needs of a lot of older adult exercisers.

Wow! Now you can answer the question yourself!