According to research, when people are asked to describe others, their self-esteem was raised by their saying positive things about others, and reduced when they were critical. Today’s gist stresses the fact that gossip has its positive side! All you have to do is ‘Find it!’
Gossip is idle talk or rumour especially about personal or private affairs of others.
Gossip has been researched in terms of its evolutionary psychology origins and this has found gossip to be an important means by which people can monitor cooperative reputations and so maintain widespread indirect reciprocity. Indirect reciprocity is defined here as “I help you and somebody else helps me. Gossip has also been identified by Robin Dunbar, an evolutionary biologist, as aiding social bonding in large groups.
“While a happy community is a productive community, if all we did was gossip, then we wouldn’t get much else done.”
Capabilities of gossip!
Research has shown that gossip is capable of achieving any of the following…..
- Reinforce or punish the lack of morality and accountability
- Reveal passive aggression , isolating and harming others
- Serve as a process of social grooming
- Build and maintain a sense of community with shared interests, information and values
- Begin a courtship that helps one find their desired mate, by counselling others
- Provide a peer-to-peer mechanism for disseminating information
Helpful tips for dealing with gossip
- Rise above the gossip
- See the bright side of it! Because it helps you do a double check on yourself and activities.
- Understand what causes or fuels the gossip and if you need to make amends please do
- Do not participate in workplace gossip or any other form of gossip.
- Allow for the gossip to fade away by keeping quiet and letting love take the lead.
- If it persists, gather facts, make amends by seeking help!
The interesting part of today’s gist is that ‘what you see is what you will get! ’