I have often wondered what drives us. By that I mean those of us who continue day after day and year after year to work in the most difficult and draining settings, persist, and keep at it. I would bet that those reading this have had many days like
‘Does my father exist at all even though he is still breathing and living on this earth? ’
The father figure does not always have to be a child’s biological father! Some children will have a biological father as well as a step- or nurturing father. But the gist for today is if your father is not acting the way he should or did not act the way he was supposed to in the past and even till date! Forgive him. We can’t turn back the hands of time and rewrite our childhood but what we can do is make better decisions as humans by being honest with our issues and making an effort to better our situations. The Truth SHE mustn’t forget is ‘The Creator of the Universe is always HER FATHER’
Traditionally, fathers act in a protective, supportive and responsible way towards their children. Involved fathers offer developmentally specific provisions to their daughters and sons throughout the life cycle and are impacted themselves by doing so.
Though fathers are the first men a young girl knows thus setting the stage for all the other men in her life. An increased amount of father–child involvement may help increase a child’s social stability, educational achievement, and their potential to have a solid marriage as an adult. When this relationship never occurs, we have trouble navigating our “man map” and often end up on roads we rather have not discovered. Even as grown women there are “little girls” walking around inside of us with pain and yearnings for our fathers. Such manifestation comes through promiscuity, numerous failed relationships, poor decision when dating, lack of self-worth, and insecurity to name a few.
From my own personal observations, I found out that an active father figure does play a role in reducing behaviour and psychological problems in our lives. Their children also can be more curious about the world around them and develop greater problem solving skills. Attached to this gist are photo’s of great men whom I have Learnt from ! some , I have had the opportunity to meet and some I only see on Television and social media platforms ! Though my own daddy ‘Barmi’ is in the midst of them but he did not do the work of raising me alone!
According to some interesting findings, the relationship with your dad while growing up is one of the most powerful forces in your life as an adult. The state of that relationship guides your choices in love, work and how you treat yourself .Every so often the root of failed or dysfunctional relationships, poor decision making in women or self-esteem issues plants itself as “Daddy issues” amongst women but the truth is God will place father figures along your path to guild you if you allow them and above all he himself is a father ,always loving you in spite of all your short comings.
Research has shown that children who were raised with fathers perceive themselves to be more cognitively and physically competent than their peers without a father! And you dearest, have The Almighty God, The one who was and who is and is to come! The great I am that I am. He is your Father and every other father gives account to him. He is God Alone.
Cheer up girl! God is a loving Father.